Top 10 Tips To Being A Supermum

My Top Ten Tips For Being A Real Super Mum

Take care of you:
This is the most important:, you need to take care of your own needs. Don't put yourself at the bottom of the list! You are the head person of your family. Your family need you to be at your best. This means giving yourself the love and care you deserve. The happier you are, the more energy and more love you have to give your family.

You are the main role model for your children, the watch and learn from you. So show them a positive, happy and contented women who is in charge of her life. A woman who also has a life of her own. Don't show them their future involves being tired and angry all the time and full of negativity. The worst thing you can show a daughter is that your a door mat for a selfish husband.

Start thinking about how you want your children to look upon life when they grow, do you want them to succeed in all they do, do you want them to never be afraid of trying? Then start showing them how to do it now.



Spend Quality Time With Each Of Your Children:
In order to develop healthy self esteem, children need to know they are valued for who they are. They need to know that they are the centre of our entire life. Now while this does not mean giving them 100% of our attention all of the time, or giving them everything that they ask for, it is very important we give each of our children our quality time.

Set aside a time for them, and only them. Find a time when you can give them your undivided attention and they do not have to compete with other siblings. Children blossom when we shower them with love. When we see them for who they are and spend time with them, we begin to see their talents, their individual personalities and we learn new things about not only them but ourselves.



Quit Feeling Guilty
: From other mothers, our own children, the media, and sometimes even our own friends and families, are very good in throwing around mother guilt. Ignore it all!

So, your five year old wants a Xbox and you can't afford it; or you can't make the school play like the other mums because you work. Its called Tough . He'll get over it! We all have different needs and circumstances and no two families are the same. Not giving your children everything they want, or being there all the time will not harm them. You can tell anyone who tries to lay a guilt trip on you to take a run and jump! Who are they? The award winning mum?. Do they know everything? NO.

As long as a child is loved and know its loved, who has parents nurture and praise them will bloom, whether mum works or not. And as for that Xbox, being a parent means teaching our children how life works - that we can't always have everything we want when we want it, it is teaching them values. Sometimes our choices will make us highly unpopular at the time, but hey, that's OK, it's the long term that counts and by the next morning they will love you again!



Family Values:
We all have differ net values, decide what yours are and stick to them.
How do you want to live - are you a good person? Will you be proud if your children have the same values and qualities as you do? What are those values? This is personal to you and only you. It may not be what your neighbours, society or even your family and friends agree with but these are essential to the well being of your family life. The good news is, your values are your own. Claim them and teach them to your children. Not just with words, but follow threw with the actions too.


Look After The Family Unit:
The best gift of all that you can give to your children is to ensure they are raised in a "happy home". Note the use of the word happy here. Do not stay with a man you do not love and/or respect. Your relationship with the father of your children is the first example they will ever see of what love is. Teach them that while love may not always be easy, it is fair, safe, respectful and supportive. DO NOT teach them that love is violent, cold, uncaring, or disrespectful.



Live Your Own Life & Not Your Child’s:
Do not try and fulfil your own dreams through your children. They have their own personality and their own journey to follow. They do not need the extra baggage or the pressure of trying to please you. Life is hard enough; your children will be exposed to enough pressure and judgement from others, they do not need it from you. They do not need the added pressure to make you proud by giving you what you could never achieve in your own life.

We all want what's best for our children. But we need to focus on what is best for them and what dreams they want to achieve. Not what we want.

If your not happy with your own life, then change it!



Love Your Child Unconditionally:
Some days our children are easy to love, other days they are not. Sometimes we wonder why they are determined to make life so hard for themselves, and for us. We despair of what will happen to them in the big bad world.

There is only one thing to remember here. Your children can only be who they are. You can help them find their best parts, you can teach them about making positive choices and also of the consequences that follow, but they must make their own mistakes. You can protect them all of the time. All you need to do is just practice loving them no matter what. Oh there will be times when you feel like climbing the walls or pulling your hair out or even throwing your child outside while you take a much needed hour to understand why your son has died his hair green, but hey so what, they made that they choice and now you have to learn to deal with it.




Have A Good Support Network
: Children and the stress come hand in and hand and we all need to take a break at some point Have trusted family and friends who can take over for a while for you, it makes all the difference. Raising children and making all those decisions in life that come with being a parent can drain us. Do not give your time to those who will judge you, criticize you or try to make you feel less than what you are. Your children need you to stay strong. You cannot be strong when you are being brought down. Do not allow anyone to do it to you. This includes your own parents. Stand up for who you are and what you believe it.
Surround yourself with only those who make you feel like your doing a good job.



Get Those Boundaries Set In Stone:
Children need boundaries so they are kept safe, so they can learn how to be good people, so they are able to interact correctly with others They also need to be loving and empathetic to you! Set boundaries so your partner knows what you need and your children know that you have rights too. They are one part of the family. They are not everything. This is crucial to their understanding of how they fit in the real world. A self-obsessed 40 year old, prone to throwing tantrums, is not an attractive sight.



Stop Trying To Be Super Mum:
There is no such thing as a "Super Mum", but you can be a " Real Super Mum" by learning to delegate! Learn to be just good enough. Even if you are a stay-at-home-mother, you are not a slave. Make sure your partner has some chores to do so he appreciates what it takes to run a household. Your six year old is more than capable of taking her her dishes to the sink after eating. Make sure everyone pulls their weight.

Take time out for yourself. Keep in contact with your friends. Never had friends? Find some! Join a gym, talk to women in the park, anything. But get a life of your own. Don't bottle up your feelings - share them. Vent to those who understand your frustrations. And when it's all too hard, ask for help!


Being a parent has to be by far the hardest job in the word. No matter what your CV may qualify you for, nothing can prepare you for becoming a mum. There are no rule books, it's a job with no phone call for a sick day or taking paid holidays.

Then there's that deep fear we all feel at times, that we may not be doing such a good job after all. That we could, very easily, mess it up entirely.

Babies are amazing little people. With their loving hearts, heart melting smiles, and their small yet chocolate covered hands which are always wiped onto our best clothing. Children are so full of life, so trusting that they actually make us want to be perfect, to be the perfect mum. And here lies the biggest problem, because there is no such thing.

Is it ever possible to be a Super Mum? To be that mother you always dreamed you would become. I say YES, we can but we need to redefine what a Super Mum really is.